The Majlis Menyambut Menantu or the traditional Malay ceremony to welcome the daughter-in-law is held and hosted by the groom’s family at the groom’s home or kampung (village).
It is actually a smaller version of the Persandingan or Wedding ceremony similar to that held and hosted by the bride’s family earlier.
Held on a smaller scale, the intention is to hold a reception and feast for the groom’s relatives and kampung folks who perhaps were unable to attend the earlier wedding ceremony at the bride's home which may be far away for some to travel.
And of course the Majlis Menyambut Menantu ceremony, like the Persandingan, is also held as a way for the bride to meet personally the groom’s relatives, neighbors and kampung folks.
Vice versa, it is also a way for the relatives and kampung folks to know and recognize the wife of their known son of the village.
At the same time, it also affords an opportunity for those who didn't attend the Wedding Day ceremony earlier to offer their personal gifts to the couple in the form of cash or presents.
Although it is held on a smaller scale, the preparations for this joyous event also involve and require proper logistics and planning, since the number of guests may also be as many as the wedding ceremony itself.
The invitation cards sent out for the initial wedding ceremony also usually include the invitation and date of the Majlis Menyambut Menantu.
Amongst the preparations, bookings for tents, chairs and tables, plates and cups, and the food and recipes especially, need to be finalized and resolved beforehand.
Other issues include the kompang group, sound system and dee-jay, silat performers, and where required, the construction of the pelamin and floral arrangements for the tables and for the whole compound.
Although the planning is just for the feasting of guests, the host normally would want to ensure that guests and invitees are made comfortable and satisfied with the food provided.
This ceremony has some similarity to the Persandingan or Bersanding ceremony, but there will be no akad nikah or exchange of hantaran or wedding gifts. All these "technicalities" had been done with during the Wedding Day previously.
There will perhaps be a kompang group and a silat performance, the walk to the pelamin (dais) and merenjis ceremony, and of course the makan beradab and maybe the cutting of a wedding cake by the wedded couple.
But most of all, the Majlis Menyambut Menantu ceremony is a joyous moment, a meet-the-folks occasion with traditional feasting, commemorating the wedding of two young hearts at the groom’s family village and home, who now turn host for the in-laws for the event.
Well, I hope you’ve enjoyed the brief description of this traditional Malay ceremony.
The Majlis Menyambut Menantu ceremony, like the actual Wedding Day ceremony, will surely remain as one of the most memorable memories for the wedded couple.
As always, from me ...